How To Get What You Want

Confidence creates a mental picture of what you want to happen in your future. Do you have the mental picture of what you want in the future? When I get a chance, I enjoy spending the day golfing with my friends.

Picture That You Are Going To Do It & It Will Happen

My golf time is spent on courses in Florida where most of the courses have a lot of water holes. One day we arrived at one of those tees where you had to drive the ball over a large pond in order to get it onto the fairway. My golf partner addressed the ball and swung his golf club with great force at the ball. The golf ball only went about 50 yards and plunged right into the water. My friend instantly turned to me and said, “I knew I was going to do that!” Have you ever done the same thing? My immediate reply was, “Yes, because you were so worried that you were going to hit your ball in the water, you created a visual picture of your golf ball going into the water before you hit it. You were meditating on what you did not want to happen, and that is why your ball went in the water.” Of course, he agreed with me that I was right. Professional golfer Jack Nicklaus said, “I never hit a shot, not even in practice, without having a very sharp, in-focus picture of it in my head. “When you spend time worrying about tomorrow or what can go wrong in your life, you are wasting time that you could be using to improve your confidence. When you constantly worry about things going wrong, you increase the chances that they will go wrong. In a survey of high-tech employees, those who spend “a lot” of time worrying about their jobs are 17 percent less productive than workers who “seldom” or “never” worry about their job.

The Difference between Confidence and Worry

Worry is having confidence in the impossible, the negative, something disastrous happening, and being convinced you are going to be defeated. Worry is like a magnet that will naturally attract negative circumstances into your life. Confidence is having faith in the possible, focusing on the positives, and expecting that something wonderful is going to happen. Confidence is being convinced you will be a success in every endeavor that you set out to do in life. See How to Maintain Confidence when things are not going your way.